Personal Development Consultant

For obvious reasons, most of the Cool Jobsters featured on this site are well established in their careers and are able to give us insight about their cool jobs taken from many years of professional experience. But today we’re going to do something a little different, and visit with someone who is in the process of turning the “dream” in “dream job” into reality.

Currently entering a new phase of her professional life is blogger, writer, life coach and personal development consultant Hayden Tompkins. Hayden has done all of the above for years because it’s a part of who she is. Recently, she’s taken the plunge and is now making a career out of doing what she loves. I’m pleased to welcome Hayden to My Cool Job and introduce you to her marvelous new e-book (just click on the image for a link to the free PDF file!):

Hayden writes in a down to earth style and with a gentle humor that is all about empowering women to take care of themselves, live a life that is going to bring them joy, and not settle for anyone less than “Mr. Man-Of-Your-Dreams”. Along the way she gives her own perspective on all aspects of relationships, including gems this one on the care and feeding of the man in your life:

Interestingly, even though most men prefer dogs, they are really more like cats. Men are not indiscriminate with their emotions, regardless of the person. They will not way their tails and jump for joy, forgetting the fact that you mistreated them the day before.

Men are more subtle, more guarded with their emotions. You have to earn their trust, and shower them with affection, just like with a cat.

And yes, dogs are man’s best friend… but because they are like women!

“The Woman’s Relationship Bible” it isn’t just about finding the right guy, it’s about how to grow your “relationship” into a great marriage .The book covers everything from finding the right person, to the subject of sex (before and after the wedding day), to the difficult task of organizing your finances with your new spouse.

If you’re looking for insights and encouragement in the area of relationships and marriage, I encourage you to download the free PDF and start reading, and point your browser to Hayden’s personal blog for a daily dose of inspiration!

So what’s it like to be a newly published author, seeking out success and rocking your purpose? I’ll let Cool Jobster Hayden fill you in!

When people ask you “what do you do?” how do you describe your job?

I don’t describe myself in terms of my job anymore. When someone asks what I am doing, I usually throw the words “personal development” and “entrepreneur” at them. But to be honest, it doesn’t even feel like I am ‘working’. Soon I will be life coaching, and clearly I am a writer, but everything I do comes under the umbrella of personal development and rocking your purpose.

How about the Exultant Consultant? Or Hayden Tompkins, Miss Bliss? Script Flipper? Purpose Rocker? Happiness Expert?

Believe me, I am more than open to suggestions. I have business cards to design!

What are the things about your job that you love?

Actually wanting to wake up in the morning. That’s completely new. I just did not realize how much I dreaded my day until I didn’t have the same day to dread anymore. Doing what I love has completely changed my outlook on living. I NEVER want to go back.

I guess that’s not a ‘thing about my job’, more a result.

Hm. What I love about my job is the research I do. It truly does not feel like research or education, even thought it is exactly that. I also love the communication it entails. The great thing about writing and speaking to others is that it helps to refine the thoughts I have. At this point, the whole world is my sounding board.

I absolutely love that I am making a difference, that I am contributing to making people’s lives better. Even if my impact is not Oprah-level, could you imagine what it would be if everyone in the world made a positive impact? Even if it was just a ‘little’ one? It’s hard to look around and see the pain that so many people live in. I don’t think I could bear it if I just tried to shut it out and go about my business. I give what I can of my soul.

What are the things about your job that you hate?

I don’t hate anything about it. The only negative is that I am not making any money at it…YET.

What education, training, vocation or just plain luck would someone have to have in order to get a job like yours?

You could say that I have been training for this job since I was a child. I can remember, clearly, at the age of 5 looking at my father and thinking “I don’t want to be like that.” Sure, my analysis of what ‘that’ was lacked a little finesse, but I have always been extremely aware of why people are the way they are and how they affect others.

I have seen a lot of people who want to be ‘lifecoaches’ or something similar, like a mentor. “I want to help others”, they say. Well, part of taking this path is knowing that wanting and doing are two different things. Do you want to help others? Or are you helping others?

The great thing about this work is that it is like dating. You will automatically attract to yourself people on a level you can handle.

What is the funniest story you can think of that involves your professional training or your job?

It’s not funny-haha, it’s more like funny-interesting. As soon as I made the decision and took the leap, opportunities just started popping out of the woodwork. I have met, and am meeting, the most amazing people. [cough] Like Jimsmuse. [cough] And I love people, so that amps up my happiness even further!